The Mediate.com Weekly
June 17, 2014 #534 – Membership information
In This Issue:
Competition, Collaboration and Integrity at the World Cup • How to Encourage Perspective-Taking • Post-Divorce Blues: Unresolved Issues and New Problems Unsettle Divorced Spouses • Meditation Enhances Mediation: A Six Sigma Perspective • Today’s Mediation News • Job Postings • Events Calendar • Blogs
|Competition, Collaboration and Integrity at the World Cup
As a former soccer player and professional mediator, I now think about the World Cup and soccer in terms of how we interrelate as human beings, focusing on issues of competition, collaboration and integrity. There are many lessons to be learned and a very special opportunity at risk of being missed.
|How to Encourage Perspective-Taking
When people get angry or upset, they have the tendency to forget to look at other possible circumstances or view points of the situation. They look at just the behaviour and not the possible intentions or causes of the behaviour. It is the mediator’s role to help the parties to see other viewpoints. The article explores examples of situations where perspective-taking can be beneficial. It also explores strategies that encourage perspective-taking. These include telling stories where the participants have been pushed to a point, examining their own behaviour and looking at common values or goals.
|Creative Responses to Conflict through Mediation and Restorative Practices – September 4-7 in Ireland
The Kennedy Institute at the National University of Ireland Maynooth announces the International Conference onCreative Responses to Conflict through Mediation and Restorative Practices, 4-7th September 2014. Come and enjoy lively presentations in beautiful university surroundings. The Conference includes a visit to the Glencree Centre for Peace and Reconciliation. The early bird registration rate of € 200 is available until 30th June. The Kennedy Institute invites mediators and collaborative practices to send their submission of paper/workshop. The deadline is Saturday 5th July 2014 at 17.00. Send paper/workshop proposals to: firstname.lastname@example.org
The programme of Plenary Sessions & Preconference Institutes is here:
Gender and Culture in Mediation – Video
Nina explains how to put theory into practice regarding studies of gender and culture in mediation. She describes being sensitive and respectful of diverse thought processes and communication methods in mediation.
Humor, Rapport and Experience – Video
Sid describes how he uses humor to lighten the mood of parties coming in and help them focus on what is in their best interests. He also talks about his vast experience and how his responses can become somewhat automatic.
Problem Solving vs. Transformative Mediation – Video
Chris talks about mediators who are problem solvers and those who attempt to transform the relationships and moral views of the parties. Moore’s position is somewhere in the middle.
Mediation Skillset is Essential for our Survival – Video
Ken discusses the significance of mediation and how the world needs to learn these skills in order for us to survive as a species.
Mediation Field Combined Law, Psychology and Social Work – Video
Jay describes early the beginnings of family mediation when he, as a lawyer, collaborated with psychologists and social workers and they learned from each other.
|APFM Advanced Training – July 19-20 in Seattle
Join the Academy of Professional Family Mediators (APFM) for an advanced training in Seattle: Power Imbalance in Family Mediation, including presentations by Hilary Linton, Claudette Reimer and Bill Eddy. Full information and registration are here.
|Post-Divorce Blues: Unresolved Issues and New Problems Unsettle Divorced Spouses
Dr. Lynne C. Halem
Months, even years, of haggling and anxiety were finally at an end. A new beginning was in the offering. Yet the initial relief, may be filled with sadness, and may well be short-lived. Divorced couples are often faced with agreements that do little to help them navigate an evolving, and even rocky, future. Mediation provides an agreement which is clear and specific as to beginning points and ends, as to the details of property, support, and the children, including education, death, and taxes, provides insurance for protecting couples from the surprises of tomorrow. agreement which is clear and specific as to beginning points and ends, as to the details of property, support, and the children, including education, death, and taxes, provides insurance for protecting couples from the surprises of tomorrow.
|Meditation Enhances Mediation: A Six Sigma Perspective
Tony Belak, Pradeep Deshpande
The importance of including meditation in mediation efforts is explained. A considerable body of evidence in the scientific literature, as well as reputed media publications, are supportive of the hypothesis meditation will enhance workplace mediation programs. Together they will lead to less workplace discord and workforce conflict, as well as offer improvements in health, wellness, quality, productivity, and competitive position.
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|Today’s Mediation News
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- Mediation speeds Franklin County property-tax challenges
A mediation program designed to handle routine property-value challenges has been so successful that Franklin County officials say it could clear up a backlog of sometimes-years-old complaints by early next year. The program, the first of its kind in the state, allows homeowners to challenge the value that the auditor’s office sets for their property without having to go through the more traditional, formal hearing process before the county’s board of revision. Most of the cases are decided over the phone in a conference call with the property owner, a representative of the auditor’s office and an independent, third-party mediator.
- Brooklyn judge asked to discard his own mediator
The Brooklyn judge deciding whether to disqualify certain scorers who evaluated proposals to purchase Long Island College Hospital is being asked to discard one of his own mediators.
- Airport board ‘can mediate in good faith’ on ex-director’s discrimination complaint
The director of the Charleston County Aviation Authority said mediation is a possibility in the gender discrimination complaint filed by the former director of the county’s three airports. “We can certainly mediate in good faith,” said Airports Director Paul Campbell. “We want something that allows us to run the airport in a cost-effective manner.” The resolution to the nearly year-old dispute with ex-airports Director Sue Stevens does not have to involve money entirely, Aviation Authority Chairman Andy Savage added. He did not elaborate.
- Court Must Mediate in Cases Involving Children
New Iowa Legislature-mandated mediation guidelines for court cases involving children will take effect next month. If you have a dissolution of marriage or a domestic relations case involving children, you’ll be ordered to go through mediation to try and mediate the issues. Previously, mediation didn’t happen unless the parties involved in the case did it on their own. There will be a mediator roster provided to the parties and they will choose their own.” The mediator will then file a report saying whether it’s been successful or not. Statistically, it’s been proven that the parties in these cases are happier that they’re a part of the outcome as opposed to going to trial.
- New mediation date set for Hope Mills and builders of Hope Mills Lake dam
A mediation date of July 9 was set Monday in a lawsuit filed by the town against the designers and builders of the failed Hope Mills Lake dam. In a related matter, the judge said he would decide later on whether the town is required to release documents to Crowder Construction, one of the defendants in the case. Morphis said Crowder wants emails and other communication regarding a settlement the town reached with Mosher Engineering, another of the defendants. The town filed suit in October 2012 over the $14 million dam, which failed in June 2010. It seeks more than $10 million in repair costs.
- Norwegian Oil Industry Faces Mediation to Avoid Output Halt
Norwegian oil workers and employers will start mediation talks tomorrow to bridge differences and avoid a strike that threatens to halt about 115,000 barrels of oil a day. The mediation deadline is set for midnight tomorrow and involves two unions that broke off wage talks last month over pensions, according to the parties involved. Talks frequently run beyond the deadline. “We naturally hope for a solution,” Sverre Simen Hov, a spokesman for the Norwegian Organization of Managers and Executives, said by phone on June 13. It’s “very difficult” to predict the outcome, he said.
- Mediation on rise in matrimonial cases
The cost of a divorce or separation through mediation is typically 50 percent less and takes about half the time of a traditional court proceeding. Ultimately, 95 percent of such court cases end with a settlement anyway! Mediators discuss the benefits of mediation for many families. Read All News
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|Training & Conference Calendar
- June 18 Boston, MA Zealous Advocacy for the Unmarried Parent
- June 18-28 San Marcos, TX CTDRC 40-hour Basic Mediation Training
- June 18-19 New York, NY ACR-GNY Annual Meeting
- June 19-21 Malibu, CA Pepperdine’s Straus Institute Summer Professional Skills Program
- June 20 Toronto, CAN ADR Panels on Mediation and Arbitration
- June 20-21 San Francisco, CA Two Advanced ADR Trainings at Community Boards
- June 20-23 Portland, OR Basic 40-hour Mediation Training
- June 21-29 San Francisco, CA Ron’s Mediation Training at BASF
- June 23-27 Colorado Springs, CO Basic Mediation Training 40 hrs.
- June 25-27 San Francisco & Palo Alto, CA Online Dispute Resolution Forum ODR 2014
- June 26-27 Greenbelt, MD 2014 Annual Conference Managing Conflict and Removing Barriers to Collaborative Decision-making
- July 1-4 Madrid, ESP World Mediation Summit
- July 10-16 Philadelphia, PA Divorce and Custody Mediator Training
- July 19-20 Seattle, WA APFM Advanced Training: Power Imbalance in Family Mediation
- July 21-25 Denver, CO Basic Mediation Training 40 hrs.
- July 29-August 1 Newton, MA Elder Decisions’ Elder /Adult Family Mediation Training
- August 4-9 Malibu, CA Mediating the Litigated Case 6 Day Program
- August 4-6 Dallas, TX Family Mediation with Dr. Nancy Ferrell
- August 11-13 Chicago, IL 2.5 Day Training in Elder Mediation
- August 18-22 Los Angeles, CA 30 Hour Basic Mediation Training
- August 18-22 Chicago, IL Divorce and Custody Mediation Training
- September 4-6 Maynooth, Co. Kildare, IRE International Mediation Conference
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